server: §3.4 asymmetric grants + downtrain and big_send actions

The grant is the keystone that makes server->client sends safe: created
only by an authenticated control-plane action, bound at creation to the
session's OBSERVED data-plane source (so it can never be aimed at a third
party), and bounded by bytes, average rate and expiry. Sends stop the
moment the budget runs out, so a buggy action cannot become a flood.

Two granted actions on top of it:
- downtrain: N packets at a given size/interval toward the client, with
  seq + send-timestamp in the payload — downstream loss/reorder/jitter,
  which an upstream-only train cannot measure.
- big_send: one datagram per requested size, echoing the intended size in
  the payload — downstream MTU / black-hole evidence the client cannot
  produce for itself (only the far end can emit a large packet toward it).

Tests cover the security properties: no grant without a verified
destination, client requests clamped to server limits, byte budget stops
sending exactly, expiry refuses, and the rate ceiling throttles a burst.
Capabilities gain downtrain + big-send.

Co-Authored-By: Claude Opus 5 <noreply@anthropic.com>

server/cmd/echolot-server/main.go

@@ -108,7 +108,7 @@ func serve(cfg *config.Config) error {
 		TLSConfig: &tls.Config{Certificates: []tls.Certificate{cert}, MinVersion: tls.VersionTLS12},
 	}
 
-	caps := []string{"udp-probe", "delayed-echo", "connect-back", "http-echo"}
+	caps := []string{"udp-probe", "delayed-echo", "connect-back", "http-echo", "downtrain", "big-send"}
 	if len(config.Addrs(cfg.TCPListen)) > 0 {
 		caps = append(caps, "tcp-echo", "tls-echo")
 	}
@@ -118,6 +118,8 @@ func serve(cfg *config.Config) error {
 		UDPPort: mustPort(firstAddr(cfg.UDPListen)), TCPPort: mustPort(firstAddr(cfg.TCPListen)),
 		StunPort: mustPort(firstAddr(cfg.StunListen)), PinB64: pin, CertChain: cert.Certificate,
 		DelayedEcho: dp.SendDelayedEcho,
+		DownTrain:   dp.DownTrain,
+		BigSend:     dp.BigSend,
 		TCPRecent:   func(ip string) any { return tcpSrv.RecentFor(ip) },
 	}